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Change- Deciding to change Day 5 | 7-Day Challenge Goal Setting with Dr. Lawana R. Lofton


What is the first step a person would have to take to make change happen?

Identify a clear goal for what they want to change.

Simple, right?

Acceptance that something must change and take action to do it are all acceptable responses as well.  Leave a comment below and let me know other responses that came to mind.


Everyone talks about “change”  these day so it’s easy to lose track of the back story of why embracing opportunities to change  and flourish are important.  Learning how to adjust to changes as they occur is important to limit frustrations, overcome one’s resistance to change and tackle procrastination.  And, the biggest ones of all don’t loss site that in not making strategic changes when called for can negatively impact quality of life, and well-being.

Do you, or do you know someone, who just at the thought of making changes to improve one’s life they feel resistant?

Many people say that they not only feel resistant, but they actually do things to keep their lives familiar.

For instance if you’re a person who dislikes making any changes even the ever so slight ones, may resist change and delay addressing it because in their mind it is being viewed as something unwelcomed.  Perhaps even to the point of feeling a mild irritation to it.

This dynamics is also commonly referred to as resistance to change.

We like our lives to stay the same, even at the risk of avoiding things that may actually improve their life for the better.  If there is anything creating a negative impact in one’s life, or a project you’ve been avoiding, making necessary changes with a goal in mind to address it is important.  Avoiding it will only make the problem, or project larger later when you decide to tackle it at a later date.

It’s not easy for everyone so I’ll just say this up front.  If “change” was so easy everyone would be doing it, and it would no longer be such a cliché  in  our modern time!


Making “changes” is not always comfortable for some while many others welcome it.  Some welcome change and view it as simply an “opportunity.”   How we view the amount of effort that may or may not be required in “making change” can impact how an individual approaches the notion of having to make some unexpected adjustments in their day-to-day lifestyle.

What I am proposing for this 7-Day Goal Setting Challenge is not a huge time commitment.

The truth is things are changing all the time.  The one thing we should expect is change.  It’s unavoidable.

“Change is inevitable, growth is optional.”   —-  Dr. Lofton


Change- Deciding to change Day 5 | 7-Day Challenge Goal Setting with Dr. Lawana R. Lofton i

What makes people decide to change?



In my opinion:

  1.  Taking steps to change occurs when an individual reaches a painful threshold they can no longer tolerate.

2.  All options to avoid changing, have been exhausted.  There are no longer other options available left but to change or suffer further negative consequences if they do not make the needed changes to overt further negative consequences.  It will become increasingly painful not to change.

3.  People always change when they reach their threshold for pain.  A form of successive pain, or due to outside influences whereby someone else will make a decision for them  that will consequently affect a forced change for the person avoiding change.    { A Forced Change }.

4.  All the outside feedback, prompting from others to “change,” has not worked to alleviate stressors, so the individual decides on their own free-will that making changes will be best for them.   { This is the most powerful personal motivator of all!   Internal personal decision to “Change.”  }

An internal personal decision to “Change” is always best.  To do this first takes courage, insight into the dilemma at hand, and recognizing personally what needs adjustment before someone else prompts the change for you.




To be effective and fulfilled we must foster and nurture the future.  Actively.

This means developing a road map to help get you where you wish to be and a system to track it so you can measure when you’ve arrived.  Or, measure just how far you are from accomplishing one’s goal.

[FORM in Pdf ]      Here’s the 7-Day Challenge Goal Setting Form

Instructions:        How to Complete the 7-Day Challenge Goal Setting Form


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