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1964 new-york-worlds-fair-1964_winogrand Dr Lawana R Lofton, PsyD

 

Have you ever heard someone talk about a specific point in time when they realized the course of their life was about to change?   That is for better or worse.

This is a normal and natural thing we humans do if we are insightful about the predicaments we face.    We even have popular phrases to refer to them:

We use phrases such as  “It was the beginning of the end” to help describe how a terrible situation got worse.

And

“It was the best of times and the worst of times.”

I’d like to explain further, but an early observation first I have about this topic which is a word of caution.  When another takes charge over everything for another individual it ruins everything!   Individuals require autonomy over how they choose to live their lives, and especially over the direction they go about it.

 

Today, I listened to the song  “Have You Ever Seen The Rain,” because it reminds me of a life lesson I’ve learned over the years I wish not to forget.  It’s about the good and positive parts of life that happen at the end of experiencing a turbulent personal set-back due to an aggressive agenda to control another’s’ creative process.

It never ends well.

Have You Ever Seen The Rain” is the title of a hit song by Creedence Clearwater Revival’s Pendulum album from 1970.  In my opinion, their best brilliant song, yet to get it recorded and published was marred with inter-band personality battles over who would have dominance over what would be produced.  This song is a classic.  It’s the one song that  put the band on the national map!  The song is about life with an interesting overriding side story about the history of the band itself navigating their conflictual band relationships.

The back story of the individual band members is a never ending string of ongoing conflictual relationship dilemmas that played out impacting individual member’s creative process and would ultimately be their band’s demise.

The dysfunctional interpersonal relational dynamics that played out when recording “Have You Ever Seen The Rain” would produce a hit song we all recognize, but it would be their last hit as a collective unit.

Ode to what might have been if not for the infighting?  Who knows because with all their fame and being at the height of their recording history, after  “Have You Ever Seen The Rain,” the band dissolved.

 

Nob Hill and Pine Street San Francisco California Dr Lawana R Lofton, PsyDAccording to Christopher Mark a Freelance Music Journalist, it was  Autumn 1970, San Francisco, California.  “John Fogerty sits beside his Creedence Clearwater Revival bandmates, guitarist John Fogerty, bassist Stu Cook, and drummer Doug Clifford, as they express their discontent at the domineering role that John has taken in the band.   Feeling he has no other choice, John agrees to relinquish some of the blinding spotlight that up until [ then had ]  been thrust solely upon him, allowing a more democratic song-writing and management process to take shape.   As the band came near to putting the finishing touches on their 6th album, Pendulum, John pens one more song  titled Have You Ever Seen the Rain  that would become synonymous with the name Creedence Clearwater Revival, but also act as a premonition of the imminent dissolution of the group.”  [Source:  Christopher Mark a Freelance Music Journalist (2012) ]

 

Creedence Clearwater Revival Ref VIETNAM WAR US MARINES, SOUTH VIETNAM, 1968-69 Dr Lawana R Lofton, PsyDThe song was probably not about fading idealism of the 1960’s and 1970’s during the Vietnam War as many have written about, but rather about resilience; weathering the storms of life and ultimately the bands demise that was brewing in the background for some time.

 

It was only after they decided to work together, they would rocket to stardom yet the collaborating efforts among then came too late to salvage their working relationships.  Too much bad history to repair.  Psychological Therapy Treatments are designed for the sole purpose to repair conflictual disagreements so might there have been hope?

Do you believe a predicament such as this might have stood a chance of repair itself with a Psychological intervention to address their group  relationship conflict dilemmas ?

I heard this song today, again, anew.  I thought of spring and the typical rain patterns.  After a heavy spring time rain storm and the sun begins to shine through the clouds I recalled it is a common marker most recognize as a sign the worst of the storm has passed.  The sun usually shines brightest after the storm has passed.

In  “Have You Ever Seen The Rain” however it was just the opposite.  In the best of times is when everything continued to sour for the band Creedence Clearwater Revival.  For many reasons they were not ever able to recover.

It’s as if the person they are speaking to in the song is not only wanting reassurance the worst will end soon, but more than this, they seek the details, the story, how and when.  How did you weather the storm?  Tell me and tell me quick!

The waiting for brighter clear skies to come had become as unbearable as the storm itself.

The more I thought about it the more perplexing it appeared.  The song is about “weathering the storms of life?” Or something light hearted and whimsical befitting the era it was written in.  An optimistic view of life where storms did pass, but with full knowledge waiting out any storm can be fraught with a lot of unpleasantness.

 

 

Lyrics

Someone told me long ago
There’s a calm before the storm
I know
It’s been coming for some time.

When it’s over, so they say
It’ll rain a sunny day,
I know
Shining down like water.

[Chorus:]
I want to know, have you ever seen the rain
I want to know, have you ever seen the rain
Coming down on a sunny day

Yesterday, and days before,
Sun is cold and rain is hard,
I know
Been that way for all my time.

‘Til forever, on it goes
Through the circle, fast and slow
I know
It can’t stop, I wonder.

[Chorus:]
I want to know, have you ever seen the rain
I want to know, have you ever seen the rain
Coming down on a sunny day

Yeah!

[Chorus:]
I want to know, have you ever seen the rain
I want to know, have you ever seen the rain
Coming down on a sunny day
Creedence Clearwater Revival Dr. Lawana R. Lofton PsyD

Questions remain.

What do you think the song is about?

The problems of daily life?  Conflicts?  Relationships?   Fading idealism?

Are some relationship conflicts ever beyond repair?

 

What I ultimately concluded is we all need relationships for better or worst.  Seldom do we need reminders of the relationships that went sour because we are already aware of them.  When we lose significant relationships therein lies the grief, regret, and largest test for our capacity to be resilient.

 

::::   Until Next Time:  à Donf   ::::

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