According to Psychologist and Author Dr. David Schnarch, PhD., who has published several books on the importance of diﬀerentiation in marriages to include The Passionate Marriage and The Sexual Crucible, contends that this approach of diﬀerentiation requires each person to face their own anxiety as a means to deﬁning themselves while getting closer to their partner.
Diﬀerentiation involves changing the way we think about our relationships. Instead of seeing it as the merging of two people into one, as has often been taught in both Couples Therapy and Sex Therapy, he contends we must learn to maintain a sense of ourselves as distinct from our partner in order to become closer to them. Gaining more diﬀerentiation is not easy Dr. Schnarch warns, but for those who choose to become more diﬀerentiated, the reward is one develops the strength to love deeply.
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